77TAB FOUR | TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF patient guide

Try to keep an open mind about ways to feel sexual pleasure. Some

couples have a narrow view of what is normal sex. If both partners cannot

reach orgasm through sex as they’ve always done, they feel cheated.

But during cancer treatment, there may be times when that kind of sex

is not possible. Don’t give up just because your usual routine has been

changed.

Try to have clear, two-way talks about sex with your partner. Keeping

each other up to date with what is happening is key to a healthy sex life.

Tell your partner what you learn from your doctor. If you feel weak or tired

and want your partner to take a more active role in touching you, say so.

If some part of your body is tender or sore, guide your partner’s touches

to create the most pleasure and avoid pain. Keep in mind that if one

person has a sex problem, it affects both of you. If you are dealing with

sexual problems, it works best when your partner is part of the solution.

Boost your confidence. Remind yourself about your good qualities. If you lose your hair, help yourself to look and feel

better by shaving your head. Or try different kinds of hats to find one you feel comfortable wearing, or wear nothing on

your head if that works for you. Eating right and getting exercise can help keep your body strong and your spirits up. Don’t

forget to take time to relax -- movies, hobbies, getting outdoors. Do what makes you feel good about yourself.