77TAB FOUR | TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF patient guide
Try to keep an open mind about ways to feel sexual pleasure. Some
couples have a narrow view of what is normal sex. If both partners cannot
reach orgasm through sex as they’ve always done, they feel cheated.
But during cancer treatment, there may be times when that kind of sex
is not possible. Don’t give up just because your usual routine has been
Try to have clear, two-way talks about sex with your partner. Keeping
each other up to date with what is happening is key to a healthy sex life.
Tell your partner what you learn from your doctor. If you feel weak or tired
and want your partner to take a more active role in touching you, say so.
If some part of your body is tender or sore, guide your partner’s touches
to create the most pleasure and avoid pain. Keep in mind that if one
person has a sex problem, it affects both of you. If you are dealing with
sexual problems, it works best when your partner is part of the solution.
Boost your conﬁdence. Remind yourself about your good qualities. If you lose your hair, help yourself to look and feel
better by shaving your head. Or try different kinds of hats to ﬁnd one you feel comfortable wearing, or wear nothing on
your head if that works for you. Eating right and getting exercise can help keep your body strong and your spirits up. Don’t
forget to take time to relax -- movies, hobbies, getting outdoors. Do what makes you feel good about yourself.